It’s Not Over Yet: How to Reconnect Before You Call It Quits

Ever catch yourself thinking, “Maybe it’s too late…”? You’re tired, worn out from the constant bickering, or just drifting in different directions. And then… the thought sneaks in: “Maybe we’re done.”

Before you call it quits, let’s take a pause. That feeling of disconnection doesn’t always mean the relationship is over — sometimes it’s a signal that it’s time to reconnect, not separate. That’s exactly what I explored with Sammi Jaeger, relationship coach and co-host of the Date Forever podcast, on this week’s episode of The StacyM Show.

Why Relationships Drift Apart

It’s not always the big, dramatic stuff like infidelity or financial disasters (although those do happen). Most of the time, relationships start to fray slowly. Think tiny moments:

• Needs being unmet but never voiced

• Feeling unseen or unheard

• “I guess they’ll figure it out” turning into “I’m done trying”

Sammi calls it the erosion of trust, and it’s sneaky. One partner might be waving red flags for years, feeling frustrated and disconnected, while the other is completely blindsided when things finally hit the breaking point.

Add extra life pressures — kids, work, health concerns, or even ADHD or other additional needs — and the odds of a breakup can skyrocket. But the good news? You can intervene before it gets that far.

Start Small: Weekly Check-Ins

Here’s the magic starter step from Sammi and her husband: a weekly “happy hour” chat.

It’s not a formal interrogation, it’s just a set time where you:

• Check in on your week

• Talk about money, plans, and household stuff

• Share appreciation for each other

• Apologize for anything lingering

Even twenty minutes a week can stop small frustrations from snowballing into “I’m done” moments. It’s about creating a space to talk openly and keep your relationship fueled — before resentment builds.

Other Tools to Keep Love Alive

Sammi and her husband also swear by:

1. Annual game planning — reviewing the year, celebrating wins, and setting priorities for your relationship.

2. Quarterly seasonal check-ins — make sure you’re both on track with personal and shared goals.

3. Monthly “fuel tank” assessments — check on everything from your relationship with self to your shared lifestyle and future plans.

4. Date nights — intentional, planned, and divided equally so neither person carries the mental load.

5. Daily gratitude practices — noticing and appreciating the little things keeps connection strong.

It may sound like a lot, but when spaced out over a year, it’s manageable and worth it. The payoff? A partnership that feels like a solid, safe team — even when life throws curveballs.

Relationship Skills You Can Learn

The best part? You don’t need to have a “perfect relationship upbringing” to make this work. Sammi emphasizes:

• Start with self-awareness — know how you feel and why.

• Practice vulnerability — show up first if you want openness in return.

• Use tools and processes to make communication predictable, safe, and effective.

This isn’t about living in a fairy tale. It’s about being intentional, proactive, and courageous enough to do the work before it’s too late.

Your First Step to Reconnection

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Where do I even start?” — start small. Schedule a weekly check-in with your partner. Twenty minutes on the couch, over a coffee, or after the kids are in bed. Just start talking, listening, and appreciating each other.

And if you want to dive deeper, listen to this episode of The StacyM Show with Sammi Jaeger — I promise, it’s packed with practical tips and relatable stories that will make you feel like you can actually save your relationship.

💬 Listen now: https://www.stacymunzenberger.com/podcasts/the-stacy-m-show/episodes/2149105436
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